forgiveness ;

ally speaks:

Move The one thing we all hate to do, forgive. View Points: How you do forgive someone that has hurt you, lied to you, stole from you, played you, or stressed you out? How are you supposed to just drop everything and pretend that nothing happened? What about your feelings? What about the fact that you probably gave someone your all and it went unnoticed? What about the fact that he probably cheated on you? What about the fact that he forgot to tell you he has a girlfriend? What about all the time you lost? What about forgiveness? When will we realize that holding grudges will get us absolutely nowhere? Forgetting about the past, or allowing yourself to see that you can not stay in the same mind frame will help you move on. So what you feel like you wasted your time, or he played you? Guess what, he’s probably NOT thinking about you nor your feelings. He has in fact, moved on. So why are you “mourning” over what you can not control? Let go of the hurt and the pain; as long as you hold on to the hurt, you can not forgive. *Lesson to learn: let no one have so much control over you, that you can not realize your worth. amiyah speaks: forgiveness; a hard stepping stone in the life of many. why is it soo hard to let go of a past hurt or action? maybe , it's bcuz most don't understand forgiveness begins within YOU and not the oppressor. you spend sooo much time trying to b right that u end up being dead wrong. after all, we're only human. we must leave judgment alone ! if not, we will be forced to live through guilt and misary. taking a few steps can help u fly on ur "wings of forgiveness" : 1. Allow yourself to feel anger before trying to let go of ur hurt feelings. Consider how bad you feel and how you can protect urself from future harm. 2.forgive urself; u have to be true to u. admitting that there was an action that hurt u and u may feel like prevention could have taken place. we all make mistakes and put ourselves thru unnecessary situations 3.Talk to someone about ur feelings toward the opressor - u can't bottle ur emotions for long. u have to express urself wether it's through words or verbally. 4. Calm yourself down when the anger builds back up. Ur body goes into a mode where it feels at risk when u get angry and makes it harder for u to be rational! 5. Remind urself that u forgiving the other person is a gift to YOURSELF! thinking about ur own interest is easier than thinking about the other person! 6. Let someone know u have forgave the person! Forgiveness is easier to hold on to when it isn't in the privacy of your own heart ! Tell a close friend and even the wounded that u have moved on and closed the chapter because u have forgiven them ! 7. Write about how good it feels to be free of such a heavy burden.